Jitters At The Altar – How To Get Hitched Without A Hitch
Getting married soon and feeling nervous? You are not alone. 71% of brides feel nervous before a wedding while 25% of men say that planning a wedding is more stressful for them than the bride! So, what can you do to calm the wedding anxiety nerves and enjoy your big day in the way you want to?
With a typical wedding costing £27,161 as well as an average of around 79 day guests and 104 evening guests to entertain; it is no surprise a wedding is stressful. It is normal to feel nervous on your wedding day, like 92% of brides say they do. However, 66% of brides say they suffer so much from nerves before their wedding day that it affects their daily life. Furthermore, 20% say they experience panic attacks before their big day.
Are you suffering from wedding anxiety?
Some of the common symptoms of wedding anxiety include;
- Panic attacks
- Struggling to sleep
- Having nightmares
- Feeling trapped
- Incessant thoughts and worries
- A sense of dread
- Constant arguing with your partner
- Irritability and restlessness.
Why does wedding anxiety occur?
There are many reasons why your anxiety levels may raise during wedding planning and the big day. The most popular cause for worry is the guest list. 38% of couples worry about staying in budget, and 35% of couples have anxiety about keeping family and friends happy.
Wedding anxiety is entirely normal. Typically, couples feel very mentally unprepared for their wedding day. Often, brides and grooms are flooded with all of this unexpected emotion, not only on the big day but from the engagement. Subsequently, they have no idea how to handle it.
Top tips for calming wedding anxiety
While you do it naturally, learning how to breathe correctly by deploying stress-relieving breathing techniques can really help. Practising breathing techniques does take time to get used to. However, by taking time to practise breathing properly every day before your big day can bring a wealth of benefits. Breathing techniques can help with clarity of thought (perfect for wedmin days), inner peace and openness.
By focusing on your breath, you can take in every moment of the preparations and the big day with a clearer, calmer consciousness.
Yes, getting married is a big deal, but it isn’t the only thing in your life. It is easy to think that your big day will be the pinnacle of your life and, as a result, it needs to be perfect. However, there will be more incredible achievements to come. While you should want your wedding to be amazing, you do not need to put unnecessary pressure on the day. It will not sum up your whole life’s worth; it should simply be a day to celebrate love.
Focus on the marriage
What’s more important to you, a successful marriage or a spectacular wedding day? It is essential to focus on the reason why you are having a wedding. Think about the reality of your life together, not just a fairytale wedding day. When you are getting bogged down with wedding planning, this could actually be time and energy you spend preparing the foundations of married life.
My Wedding Anxiety Programme
I have so many clients that come to me with wedding anxiety, that I have designed a bespoke six-week course for wedding anxiety. My programme involves one face-to-face session and one coaching session a week. Each of which I will personally tailor to offer support for your biggest concerns leading up to the big day.
Whether you feel nervous walking the aisle, fed up with people-pleasing for your big day or even getting cold feet; I will offer a blend of therapy techniques to help you feel confident, more assertive and happier with your choices.
Find out more during a free 15-minute consultation by calling 0207 971 7677.
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