Many people do not have the self confidence that they would like to have. Although self confidence is something that must be gained rather than learned, this week’s post will show a few ways that will help you along the way of gaining self confidence and have fun doing it. Written by Hypnotherapist Harley Street, Malminder Gill, 22 June 2015 published online via the Hypnosis in London Blog.
Self confidence is not something that everyone possesses, for the simple reason that it is not something that can be learned through simply reading a book or watching a video online. Self confidence is a state of mind that must be gained through different experiences and situations. Self confidence can come as naturally as breathing to some people, or may seem like a foreign language to others. For those who have no idea where to even start when it comes to building the confidence they wish to have, there is no substitute for simply putting yourself out there and getting yourself into new situations, but there are a few things that you can do to help you out along the way.
Self confidence is gained through the belief in yourself and your own abilities. In this manner, it would make sense to practice an already existing skill or even learn a new one. Learn to play a new instrument or continue perfecting one that you already play. Any type of skill and the confidence to perform that skill will carry over to your day to day life. Any skill will work, from playing an instrument to learning a new language or starting a sport.
Going along with confidence in your own abilities, education can go a long way. The more you know, the more you are going to believe in yourself. If you believe you have the answers in your head, this will outwardly show in your social interactions. When was the last time you saw a doctor or professor with low self confidence?
Compliment yourself. The only person who can make you feel like you can’t do something is yourself. Nobody else truly knows your knowledge or limitations. By complimenting yourself, you are assuring yourself that you know you have the abilities to perform anything that you want to. If you are learning to play an instrument, and finally learned a difficult song, compliment yourself and know that you have the ability to play this song either in your room alone or in front of a hundred people; the knowledge is still there in your mind.
Accept the fact that you are going to make mistakes no matter how good you are or how much you know. Everyone knows how to carry a glass of water, but that doesn’t stop anyone from dropping or spilling it every now and then. But do people get upset with themselves and beat themselves up over spilling a glass of water? Not usually. Even though they may have made a mistake and dropped a glass of water, they know that they have the ability to do so and have only made a little mistake. The same is true for any task or skill. No matter how much you have practiced, you will make a mistake at some point in time. It is important to realize that mistakes are a part of life and that accepting them will put you on the right path to building greater self confidence.
Most importantly, the way to building self confidence is to get yourself out there and try new things. The greater the amount of new activities you try, the more you will learn, and this will be what has the biggest impact on your self confidence. Start with something that you have always wanted to do, but have not felt quite confident about. Join a local club and get involved with the community. All of these will get you out and interacting with new people and joining in with new activities, and on top of increasing your self confidence, you will likely find yourself having loads of fun in the process.
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