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“You can travel around the world to search for someone more lovable than yourself, and yet that person is never to be found.” – Buddha
We all want to impress. We spend our lives trying to make others like and love us, whether its making friends, forging relationships or in our careers. However, we often forget about the most important aspect of love, self-love. How can you expect anyone to love you if you do not love yourself?
“You as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
We devote our energy to loving others and trying to make others love us, but we often don’t feel worthy recipients of love, whether from ourselves or others. Often self-love is frowned upon. We think it’s selfish or even narcissistic to love ourselves. But, if you do not show yourself compassion, kindness and self-love, it becomes impossible to truly recognise love from others.
For example, a phrase we often tell ourselves is; “how can they possibly love me when I’m so <insert negative statement>?”
Love Without Conditions
Do you love yourself? Or do you only love yourself when you lose a certain amount of weight, hit a fitness goal, do well at work, look good in a new outfit or earn a specific amount? We tend only to be happy with ourselves once we achieve something. However, it is much harder to love yourself whatever you do, without conditions. So, how do you make self-love come naturally and easily to you?
How To Practice Self-Love
One of the biggest detriments to self-love is when we compare our lives, achievements and problems to someone else. We not only give ourselves a hard time with unachievably high standards but then we assess our measures against the perceived perfection of someone else.
How To Stop It: Avoid the mindless scroll through social media if you find yourself wishing for someone else’s life. If you do find yourself feeling jealous or comparing yourself, you need to remind yourself of the things in your life that you are grateful for. It may help to keep a gratitude journal, where you write down the key things that you’re thankful for at the end of every day.
With the right approach to affirmations, they have an incredible power to become a deep truth that you feel both subconsciously and consciously. Affirmations have to ability to calm anxiety, boost performance and transform feelings of negativity into a belief of self-love.
How To Harness It: For affirmations to be successful, you need to be present. This means your affirmations need to be in present tense. Repetition is essential to develop focus and to create a routine. I have created a collection of hypnotic affirmations that you can use to practice self-love and rid negative thoughts. By listening to this audio regularly, you can begin to repeat the affirmations that resonate with you, building them into your routine. Email me at email@example.com to receive your free audio.
“Peace comes from within” – Buddha
So often we look to others to provide us with love or perhaps rely on material items to give us happiness. However, these are often distractions to our self-love. Meditation can help to cut through the distractions and get to the core of inner peace.
How To Harness It: Meditation workshops can provide you with the expert tips you need to make meditation work for you. Over time, regular meditation practice can help to lower stress levels. It can also improve our abilities be fully present in the moment, without fear, worry or negativity.
Start Your Self-Care Routine
From affirmations to quality sleep, proper nourishment to meaningful mindfulness, there are many ways you can practice a healthy approach to self-love. All of which can transform your relationship with yourself and others. If you want to set up a self-care routine that boosts your confidence and gives you a positive mindset get in touch to discuss your reinvention self-love plan. Call me on 0207 971 7677 to arrange your free 15-minute consultation.
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