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Are You Ready To Make A Big Life Change?
Did you know that 60% of people make New Year’s resolutions? Furthermore, the 8th of January is known as Divorce Day as it is the most popular day of the whole year to start legal proceedings to end marriages. With this in mind, January is a big month and a time when many people focus on making big life changes for the new year. So, if you’ve got a significant life change in mind, is it the right decision for you?
What is a big life change?
A big life change will often come out of the blue. However, in many cases, a significant life change comes after a period of distress, unhappiness or annoyance. The big life change could be;
- A new career, switch in employment or retirement
- Having children
- Adjusting to a change or end of a relationship
- A health or wellness goal
- Changing religious, political or other beliefs
- Moving home or changing your location
- Overcoming illness or injury
- Changing circumstances and personal habits
- Disrupting what is familiar.
Whatever big life change you are considering; it does require a leap of faith. However, it is essential not to make any rash decisions that you haven’t thought out properly. After all, big life changes can result in lifelong consequences. With that in mind, ask yourself the following key questions to make sure you are making the right decision.
Seven Key Questions To Ask Before Making A Change
What do you fear?
Has something been holding you back from making this decision? Perhaps your life change makes you fearful? It is important to work out exactly what you fear about the change – are you worried because of past experiences or making assumptions about the future? It is important to consider your present feelings and ensure that you’re not being nostalgic about the past or projecting your fears into the future.
Can you visualise the outcome you want?
If you don’t have a goal or know what outcome you’d want from a situation, then it will be harder to implement the big life change. Take some time to imagine what life will be like during, and after, the life change that you plan to achieve.
It can help to visualise the worst possible outcome and the best possible outcome at this stage, so you not only feel prepared but have something to strive for too.
Are you running away or stepping forward?
Instead of running away from issues, most problems are best faced head-on. If you’re running away, you may not be doing it for the right reasons. If you are stepping forward to a better life and see your big life change as a chance to improve your happiness, then this is a healthier way to approach significant changes.
What would happen if you did nothing?
For some changes, doing nothing can result in serious repercussions. It is important to consider if you would regret inaction. If doing nothing is the easy option, however, you need to make sure you have the motivators in place so that you stick to your goal.
What would your older self think?
It is often best to look at your situation from your older perspective. Say, what you’d think in 20 or 30 years. As the famous Mark Twain quote says; “Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.”
What do your instincts say?
Our bodies are incredibly powerful, and gut instinct can tell us a lot about decisions we have to make. While it is normal to fear a big change, if you feel unease, then there may be something wrong that needs addressing before you commit to your big decision.
Will your choice make you proud?
How you feel about the planned life change will ultimately show you whether you are doing the right thing for you. If your decision makes you feel proud, powerful, confident or happy, then go for it!
Do you need help with a big life change?
As an award-winning hypnotherapist and life coach, my goal is to get you the results you want to see. If you have been stuck in limbo over a big decision or not sure how to make the first step, I can help. With my bespoke blend of therapy, we can create a plan for success. To find out more about what your personal plan would involve, email [email protected] to book your first free consultation.