In this week’s post I discuss what it takes to become successful. Are there obstacles in your life leading you to believe that you are incapable of achieving the newfound wealth in your self? If so, there are systems you can put into place to help lead yourself to such success. Written by Hypnotherapist Harley Street, Malminder Gill, 29 March 2015 published online via the Hypnosis in London Blog.
When most people think about becoming self-disciplined, they feel the need to correlate it with self-deprivation. Becoming self-disciplined is not to become miserable or even uptight, but to train you into making better decisions as well as keeping up with long-term goals. When you exert self-control not only will you feel better about your decision, you will be happier in the long run.
A momentary lapse in judgment can cause a lifetime effect in all areas of your life. Managing goals and conflicting tasks in your life can be time consuming and draining if there is not order and organization in your life. Being task oriented can help you in this endeavor. However being a task-oriented person is not a requirement to becoming self-disciplined.
Having a satisfying life is generally a motivator for the majority of the population. When you think back in time before this very moment, think of a moment when there was a lapse of judgment and a then later a feeling of regret.
The innate need to feel good as opposed to bad is a leading reason as to why the population leans toward self control and shy away from hedonistic tendencies. Learning to become more self-disciplined and displaying more self-control can lead one to remain in an elevated mood state. The higher and more consistent the role of self-control in one’s life the more likely negative moods and feelings are to dissipate. It is not about depriving yourself of what you think you want, but knowing how to differentiate that from what you actually need. Just as a Shopaholic would only shop on a need only basis.
Self-control also displays the way a person handles conflicts and goal setting. Those who display more self-control are twice as more likely to contemplate the consequence to their actions. Conflict is more likely to be diffused as opposed to instigated when it comes to self-discipline. Contemplation then becomes second nature.
As a highly self-controlled person habits are very distinctive. Conflicts are more likely to be avoided, seemingly due to better planning. Avoiding unnecessary situations and following through with goals that are set would be an active, visible trait when you are self-disciplined. Better decisions equal fewer negative consequences, therefore when a person displays self control the outcome is more likely to be beneficial as opposed to detrimental.
This is not meant to avoid living by any means, but what it can be interpreted as is to not purposefully place yourself in a situation where every option is a bad option. The secret to living a generally satisfactory life would lay in self-management. Self-management is about keeping you on track and removing the temptation of procrastination and self-destruction. When there is success in remaining self-controlled your overall life will seem to be more organized as well as more satisfactory.
The difficulty most people have when it comes to beginning the journey to self-control and self-discipline would be the appearance of the mundane. The first thought that comes to mind in terms of self-discipline is not happiness. So how does self-control correlate into happiness and life satisfaction? When one works towards a goal and succeeds, the overall sense of accomplishment can increase the feel good hormones causing you to feel better about yourself and about lie in general.
Being controlled is not always about depriving yourself of the joys of life. It does mean to remove yourself from situations that may cause you to make a bad decision that may have severe repercussions on your future. This is not an instant gratification method to life, but the hard work that you put into self management will pay off in the long run and will provide you with a peace of mind that is long term and not just temporary.
Malminder is an accredited professional Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Coach working in Harley Street, London. Malminder helps people to increase their confidence, establish life goals and provides the necessary support through Coaching and Hypnosis to empower and increase success. Malminder offers online hypnosis via Skype for anyone outside of London.
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